We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started, And know the place for the first time. ~T.S. Eliot Four Quartets
08 March 2010
an asperger adventure
My son and I have both finished reading the book Blue Bottle Mystery: An Asperger Adventure by Kathy Hoopman which is the first book I believe we have both read, independently. Admittedly I had to encourage him to read it because all he really wants to read right now are Geronimo Stilton books. He can read at an adult level now but up till recently I did read aloud to him in additon to his own reading. We both finished this one in under an hour, its an easy and pleasant read for children (and adults!). What really jumped out at me was Hoopman's understanding of a boys life with asperger's, as the main character struggles at school in many of the same ways my son does.
The story certainly echoed some of the problems we experience as a family like anxiety with change, and those who don't understand the problem. Sometimes I don't understand the problem! Ben, the main character's miscommunication with his teacher is very well written I think, highlighting how difficult it must be to have asperger's and try to connect with people. Despite Ben's best efforts to behave and please his teacher, he often gets it wrong, trying desperately to get it right he still gets punished. I know my own son has experienced this many times and how frustrating it must be to be accused of being naughty when you are just trying to work out one of a thousand possibilites in your mind, work out what comes instinctively to neuro-typical people. Its also a nice little adventure and Ben does have one good friend in the book, who helps him and seems to understand him. My son related very well to this as he also has one or two friends who do seem to 'get' him.
This is a simple book that offers good insight into the life of an asperger boy and autism and I would love so very much if all of my son's classmates read it!!
Kathy Hoopman is a primary school teacher and mother of three in Queensland Australia. If she doesn't have any children on the spectrum, she certainly has a great grasp of it.
06 August 2008
Has to be...
I've just finished this book edited by Linda Andron and have found the most enlightening chapter yet, of all that I've read. Chapter 5 'How to Speak Asperger's' by Fran Goldfarb with Guthrie Devine, spoke so directly to me and my son that I am convinced it must be Asperger's. There were so many examples of her son's behaviour in this chapter and it echoed so much of my son. Particulary the paragraph in which she says that if something is true once, then for the child with AS it is true forever. This would explain why we've lost our special treats, as they seem to need to happen the same day every week, even though it was meant to be a 'special' treat, why Friday nights staying up later is sooooo important every single week, and generally, why things can get so confusing for my son, when everything changes.
I especially loved the paragraph where she discusses the trouble with social rules in a classroom or other group situations, where if her son, like mine, is interested in what is going on, he has trouble understanding that he isn't the only one that the teacher is speaking to and ends up shouting out answers like a conversation rather than a lesson. And he usually knows the answer, alot of the time before anyone has even taught it, and he's quite willing to tell everyone about it as well! This has all given me the dawning realisation that his 'inability' to sit still in class is not due to ADHD, but rather his own need to follow his interests, unfortunately to the detriment of the rest of the class.
What I need now is to learn to speak Asperger's myself, because although this chapter led to so many 'ah hah's' it is still very hard and frustrating at times, which makes it that much more frustrating for my son too.
12 June 2008
How much is too much?
I'm currently reading Enough, Breaking free form the world of more by John Naish, which I discovered through Lisa G's blog, The State I'm In. I'm a great believer, or noticer of synchronicities so when my husband discovered his hotmail account had been hacked and used to spam everyone on his list about chinese computers, I was reading this book and feeling all-luddite again! I often feel overwhelmed with technology but not in itself, I realize, but rather because of the overload of information it brings to my doorstep. Particularly with my son and my quest to find out as much as possible about autistic spectrum disorders, but the trouble is, there is sooo much out there its very difficult to know where to start. I'm back to basics, starting at the library, as my preferred intake of knowledge is through reading books, and not the computer. 12 May 2008
More Help? More Paperwork!
de the box' as I'm not sure how I'd handle a class like this.In the meantime I'm still reading more and more and right now am enjoying John Elder Robison's memoir, Look Me in the Eye, My Life with Asperger's. From the Prologue he says:
21 April 2008
Spiritual Compass
Sometimes in my daily life I feel as if I've strayed away from my ideals, or perhaps have gotten weighed down in the mundane and need a refresher, a reminder of the bigger picture. For me the bigger picture is one viewed through my lens of my buddhist understanding and my desire to live a fruitful and peaceful life. This book by Satish Kumar (editor of Resurgence magazine) is a wonderful and gentle read (probably due to the fact he has been a monk), and while it poses tough questions it also provides some answers for that as well, through his eleven points of action. 02 April 2008
World Autism Awareness Day

12 December 2007
Too much of everything
I'm currently reading this book by Sue Palmer, but not finished, so this is not a review. I shouldn't be surprised that my son is one of the millions with ADHD and other issues as it seems to be growing not just in the US and Britain, but even places like Japan.15 November 2007
Naturally Clean
I never thought I'd be thinking that I can't wait to get cleaning, but I'm looking forward to trying out some new old recipes for healthy cleaning. I ordered this book, Clean House Clean Planet by Karen Logan, which arrived yesterday and it is packed full of traditional preparations for cleaning everything in the house. For lack of anything better I used plain vinegar to clean the glass tv cabinet the other day, and was surprised at how easy and efficient it was. It did smell though, which is why chemical glass sprays have other fragances added to them. But now I realise I can use a little bit of lemon or essential oils to combine and mask the smell. So now I'm off to do a bit of cleaning.
10 November 2007
Manners & Philosophy
I suppose I should have picked a theme for Nablopomo as I seem to be somewhat random in my thoughts on here, but I suppose there's an overall loose theme to my blog, to my life. And what is that? Probably what I set out in my 'mission statement' of sorts when I started this blog.. to blog about what means something to me, my kids, my life, spirituality, health, the environment, music, books and anything in between. So there you have it.Yesterday I finished reading The Sunday Philosophy Club by Alexander McCall Smith. I first read 44 Scotland Street a couple of years ago, and having lived in Edinburgh I love reading stories set within its fascinating streets. Somehow, I forgot about these books, but am back to them now. I will be reading Friends, Lovers, Chocolate next in this series, as well as Espresso Tales, more from 44 Scotland Street. I have not read The No. 1 Ladies Detective Agency series yet, which is also by Alexander McCall Smith and highly acclaimed. The setting for that series is Botswana, and I'm afraid its really Edinburgh that draws me more.
In The Sunday Philosophy Club, which never meets, by the way, we are introduced to Isabel Dalhousie, philosopher, editor of an ethics magazine and aspiring private detective. Its the philosophical observations running through the book that I really enjoyed, as well as the mystery to be solved. In one section Isabel (who naturally, has perfect manners, but can be nosey!) rails on manners and the decline of this generation to have any, which I would say is true (oh but it makes me sound old), and a topic I came across on Blogher (i think it was) this week as well. From The Sunday Philosophy Club:
Good manners depended on paying moral attention to others; it required one to treat them with complete moral seriousness, to understand their feelings and their needs.
... How utterly shortsighted we had been to listen to those who thought that manners were a bourgeois affectation, an irrelevance, which need no longer be valued. A moral disaster had ensued, because manners were the basic building block of a civil society. They were the method of transmitting the messege of moral consideration.
In this way an entire generation had lost a vital piece of the moral jigsaw and now we saw the results: a society in which nobody would help, nobody would feel for others; a society in which aggressive language and insensitivity were the norm.
(Ugh I can't seem to get the block quote to go off!!)Whew what a mouthful, but I love philosophy and especially enjoy it in this form, truths within a base of an absorbing fiction story. Enjoyable and thought provoking without too much banging of the head. There was a local news story recently of a woman who died in a doorway due to a brain annuerism as she was carrying home some wood shelving from the DIY store. Two young men, in thier 20's came along and urinated on her (and filmed themselves of course). She died shortly after.
They claim to have been drunk and high, but at that moment they came along, she had actually been in the midst of dying. How completely awful and without conscience is that. I don't know anyone who ever did that when they were drunk. Does being drunk mean you completely lose your moral compass? Or is it just a convenient excuse for no moral compass? And with this new 'happy slapping' phenomena (I've just seen yet another depressing news story about it today -here in the UK), where one doesn't think of helping first, but filming or creating crime instead, it does seem that a portion at least, of our society is slipping into some clockwork orange netherworld. Oh, I'm getting irritable again so I'll quit!!
03 November 2007
Hooray for older mums!

I'm looking forward to reading this book as it also says that older mothers live longer than their younger counterparts and cites a report by the Population Research Centre at the University of Texas which suggests the best age for childbearing is between 34 and 40. Reasons for this include older women are more settled, less likely to engage in risky behaviour and have a more healthy and conscious pregnancy.
01 November 2007
Potty reading
With lots of thoughts of travelling dancing through my head, and definite America plans in the pipeline, the push is on to get the little one out of nappies. She's not two yet, so of course we don't want to pressure her. She is interested though and no doubt will master it soon, or at least probably before we manage to get all the passports sorted out. Because potty training is definitely easier than planning a trip back to the states!!
And she does love her reading!
21 March 2007
Literary List
Take the list below, paste it into your own blog or email it or just mentally complete it in your head. Insert READ next to those you’ve read, WANT TO next to those you are interested in, LOVE next to those you’ve read more than once, and leave blank those you don’t care to read. I'm not sure if they are listed in any particular order.
1. The Da Vinci Code (Dan Brown)
2. Pride and Prejudice (Jane Austen) Read
3. To Kill A Mockingbird (Harper Lee)
4. Gone With The Wind (Margaret Mitchell) Read
5. The Lord of the Rings: Return of the King (Tolkien) Want to
6. The Lord of the Rings: Fellowship of the Ring (Tolkien) Want to
7. The Lord of the Rings: Two Towers (Tolkien) Want to
8. Anne of Green Gables (L.M. Montgomery) Read
9. Outlander (Diana Gabaldon)
10. A Fine Balance (Rohinton Mistry)
11. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire (Rowling) Read
12. Angels and Demons (Dan Brown)
13. Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix (Rowling) Read
14. A Prayer for Owen Meany (John Irving) Read
15. Memoirs of a Geisha (Arthur Golden) Read
16. Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone (Rowling) Read
17. Fall on Your Knees (Ann-Marie MacDonald)
18. The Stand (Stephen King)
19. Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban (Rowling) Read
20. Jane Eyre (Charlotte Bronte) Read
21. The Hobbit (Tolkien) Want to
22. The Catcher in the Rye (J.D. Salinger) Love
23. Little Women (Louisa May Alcott) Read
24. The Lovely Bones (Alice Sebold) Read
25. Life of Pi (Yann Martel)
26. The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy (Douglas Adams) Read
27. Wuthering Heights (Emily Bronte) Read
28. The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe (C. S. Lewis) Read
29. East of Eden (John Steinbeck)
30. Tuesdays with Morrie (Mitch Albom)
31. Dune (Frank Herbert)
32. The Notebook (Nicholas Sparks)
33. Atlas Shrugged (Ayn Rand) Want to
34. 1984 (Orwell) Read
35. The Mists of Avalon (Marion Zimmer Bradley)
36. The Pillars of the Earth (Ken Follett)
37. The Power of One (Bryce Courtenay)
38. I Know This Much is True (Wally Lamb) Read
39. The Red Tent (Anita Diamant)
40. The Alchemist (Paulo Coelho) Love
41. The Clan of the Cave Bear (Jean M. Auel) Read
42. The Kite Runner (Khaled Hosseini)
43. Confessions of a Shopaholic (Sophie Kinsella)
44. The Five People You Meet In Heaven (Mitch Albom)
45. The Bible Read
46. Anna Karenina (Tolstoy) Read
47. The Count of Monte Cristo (Alexandre Dumas)
48. Angela’s Ashes (Frank McCourt) Read
49. The Grapes of Wrath (John Steinbeck) Read
50. She’s Come Undone (Wally Lamb) Want to
51. The Poisonwood Bible (Barbara Kingsolver) Read
52. A Tale of Two Cities (Dickens) Read
53. Ender’s Game (Orson Scott Card)
54. Great Expectations (Dickens) Read
55. The Great Gatsby (Fitzgerald) Love
56. The Stone Angel (Margaret Laurence)
57. Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets (Rowling) Read
58. The Thorn Birds (Colleen McCullough)
59. The Handmaid’s Tale (Margaret Atwood) Read
60. The Time Traveller’s Wife (Audrew Niffenegger) Reading
61. Crime and Punishment (Fyodor Dostoyevsky) Read
62. The Fountainhead (Ayn Rand) Want to
63. War and Peace (Tolstoy) Read
64. Interview With The Vampire (Anne Rice) Read
65. Fifth Business (Robertson Davis)
66. One Hundred Years Of Solitude (Gabriel Garcia Marquez) want to
67. The Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants (Ann Brashares)
68. Catch-22 (Joseph Heller)
69. Les Miserables (Hugo)
70. The Little Prince (Antoine de Saint-Exupery) Love
71. Bridget Jones’ Diary (Fielding) Read
72. Love in the Time of Cholera (Marquez) Read
73. Shogun (James Clavell)
74. The English Patient (Michael Ondaatje)
75. The Secret Garden (Frances Hodgson Burnett) Read
76. Tigana (Guy Gavriel Kay)
77. A Tree Grows in Brooklyn (Betty Smith)
78. The World According To Garp (John Irving) Read
79. The Diviners (Margaret Laurence)
80. Charlotte’s Web (E.B. White) Love
81. Not Wanted On The Voyage (Timothy Findley)
82. Of Mice And Men (Steinbeck)
83. Rebecca (Daphne DuMaurier)
84. Wizard’s First Rule (Terry Goodkind)
85. Emma (Jane Austen) Read
86. Watership Down (Richard Adams) Read
87. Brave New World (Aldous Huxley) Read
88. The Stone Diaries (Carol Shields)
89. Blindness (Jose Saramago)
90. Kane and Abel (Jeffrey Archer)
91. In The Skin Of A Lion (Ondaatje)
92. Lord of the Flies (Golding) Want to
93. The Good Earth (Pearl S. Buck) Read
94. The Secret Life of Bees (Sue Monk Kidd) Want to
95. The Bourne Identity (Robert Ludlum)
96. The Outsiders (S.E. Hinton) Love
97. White Oleander (Janet Fitch)
98. A Woman of Substance (Barbara Taylor Bradford)
99. The Celestine Prophecy (James Redfield) Love
100. Ulysses (James Joyce) Love
